I know its that time of the month where lovers won’t let you hear a word. It’s that time where everywhere you turn too something lovey-dovey is been advertised and talked about and it practically feels as if there’s no way of escape.

Chances are if you’re a commuter, the songs that will be jamming on your favourite radio channels are love songs, your favorite series too wont spare you neither will movies been released into the cinemas spare us, these people are set to put us in our feelings whether we like it or not, their major aim is to make our heart go turnioniown 😅😅😆.

Your friends too won’t make it easy either…Tobi and Folake who you think is still single and will probably be people to hang around with during this period are already making plans to go on getaway trips with boos you’re not aware off, even Deji and Biola that you think don’t have girlfriends have also chosen to do right by the girls in their lives and so are already making plans.

Well, I have come to let you know that this too shall pass 😂😀, and even though love is a beautiful thing refuse to be intimidated by all the lovey-dovey going on around.

Stay true to yourself, don’t give in to that boy advances all in the name of Valentine and Mr. man don’t let that girl sway you either, you both know you don’t like yourself that much, so please spare us the drama of listening to your sobby stories after valentine.

Remember, it is okay to take your time till it happens instead of catching feelings up and down.

And, it’s not a bad idea to splurge on yourself by taking yourself out, join a group of strangers to travel and explore a city, wining and dining in the restaurant of your choice or even buying that gift you have been eyeing for a while, you can even top it up by writing a love note to yourself, reminding yourself how awesome you are, declaring to whoever needs to know that you’re worthy of love and affection.

However, if you’re not still sold out to the idea of doing all of the above, you can as well cook jollof rice, drink coke or baileys, binge on your favourite series and sleep. 

Na single you single, you no kill anybody. 😂😂😂


Image credit:- Google

The moment I laid my eyes on him, I couldn't get him out of my mind. I was working with my colleagues when he walked in. He was casually dressed, tall, with skin as dark as chocolate and handsome with eyes that lit up the room whenever he smiled.

I raised my head just in time to notice him as he walked into the room. He was engrossed in a conversation with my boss, you could tell that the nature of their discussions was light because they shared some laughs as they talked. He looked free like he was in his zone and was quite oblivious of his surroundings even as he looked around - I would like to think he noticed me while he glanced around. ( Don't be a hater, a girl can always dream)😜😝

As I worked with my colleagues, I silently stole glances at him as he walked his around the room handling his business like a boss with the guys he came with while he conversed further with my boos.

I would later have a session with him as I was notified by my boss that I & my teammates will be working with him. He spoke to the team about what would be expected of us and even as he spoke I could feel his eyes on me. His gaze burned directly at me making it feel as if we were the only two in the room, there and then I silently sent a quick prayer to God that we would see again.

I told God everything I could imagine about him, how I found him attractive and how I wanted him to be attractive to me and a few things that included what I couldn't wait to do to him... Okay, Okay you got me, I didn't tell God the last part. I mean, who tells God about wanting to kiss a guy you might never meet and then after talking with God, I went to stalk him on social media.

These days you need to backup your crush or feelings with a social media audit, you cannot afford to put it to waste and be crushing on someone who is already hooked especially if you're not planning to be the side chick.

The answer to my prayer came a few weeks later, my boss had informed my team that she would want us to have another session with him because she wanted us to put finishing touches on our previous work. I took my time dressing up that morning, I knew he was coming and I wanted him to notice me. I wore a black skirt that accentuated my curves and showed some skin and paired it up with a nice shirt, but I think I messed up everything somewhere around (I think that's what you get when you go out of your way to overly impress someone)😑

It was 12 noon, I remember because I had just recently raised my head from my system to take a quick break and was going back to my work wondering if this crush of mine will still show up when all of a sudden there was an uproar in the building. I lifted up my head from my system and there he was in all his glory, standing tall, looking ravishing more than ever like he had just stepped out from a chocolate dip and ready to be licked😋😋 and right before we got to the business of the day, I sent a quick mumbled prayer to God, please let this man talk to me personally🙏.

The work was fast and quick, and we did get to talk at some point but not personally. It was 3pm when his team went on break and said we should reconvene in 30 minutes time. I was working on my system on some other work-related assignments when I noticed that someone pulled up a chair beside me.

  Hi, your name is Lamide, right? he said stretching his hand out for a handshake, his hands were broad and strong with nicely manicured nails while his grip was firm like he was holding on and didn't want to let go

  I answered, Yes.

  He smiled, introduced himself as Damola and then we talked a bit about ''work" just the two of us. It's my best mini break conversation till date.

OMG! He had the perfect set of teeth I had ever seen, and the cutest set of kissable lips, his bodily scent, was a mixture of exotic and spicy mixed with a little bit of coffee and clean cotton. As we talked he gesticulated with his hands as our skin slightly graced each other

After the break, time went by so fast as we worked but I noticed he was stealing glances at me and of course I stole glances too, my second prayer about this crush of mine has been answered, call it coincidence or luck I didn't care I was basking in the euphoria of the moment.

At the close of business that day, I summoned up courage and we talked about some minor things that led us to follow each other on Instagram.

Anyway, it's been a week since I last saw him and I have no idea if I will see him again. The closest we ever got to know each other was the brief conversation we had and that was me shooting my shot in the best possible way I knew. Who knows maybe he will do the Banky W thing and slide into my DM (If that ever happens, I promise to keep you updated).

All in all, it was good to have a crush on someone new... This feeling would probably disappear in the next couple of days or probably linger till someone new comes along or better still he slides into my dm and we take it to the next level 😉.


Image Credit:- Google

In the past couple of weeks, I have thought about wanting and desiring to be in a loving relationship more than anything. I have imagined how it would happen when I meet him, how great it will be with him and my response when he proposes to me.

People say depending on what we think about, that's the kind of energy you will have and attract to yourself, so I have decided to think love, happy and successful relationship kind of thoughts because I want to attract only people who also desire to be in long-lasting successful relationships.

At this stage in my life, I'm ready to love somebody and receive love back in return. So this piece is hoping that all need to align, aligns quickly and brings this man to me with the speed of light.😆😘

What do you think? do you think the love energy is real?

Navigating friendship as an adult can be difficult. Maintaining it can be a herculean task especially if you're someone who falls into the category of ''Out of sight, out of mind''. However, if you're like me who would usually make a mental note to check on friends, call or text and even go on a guilt trip when you haven't checked on special people in your life then communicating with your friends might not be so hard except you have friends who are not willing to be called friends.

I have come to the understanding that it takes genuine effort on both ends to make relationships work. I have also come to understand that for any kind of relationship to grow then both parties must learn to communicate as adequately as possible.

Make a reminder and set a timer if you have too on certain days of the month to remind you about the people in your life you need to check up on if you have to, I reminded my friend a few days back.

I have learnt to cope with friends who choose to go months without a word and even though I genuinely care about them, I'm also learning to be friends from a distance because of that's what they want. I have learnt to also understand friends who literally expect that we only talk like 3times in a year particularly during festive and celebratory periods all because they don't want to share details of their life with you and even if it feels odd and sometimes painful... I'm also learning to respect boundaries because whats friendship without boundaries.
And this is not to shame anyone in how they choose to be friends with anyone but I have come to understand that Life as an adult can be difficult but the journey gets easier with friends. I believe in quality friendships especially since I'm a very mushy person. The friendship that comes with openness, where support is key and paramount, friendships were we can laugh, cry, argue and talk about anything from the most mundane things to the most important of them all.
I like to think that even though friendship as an adult can be difficult, I'm learning to be in control of my emotions by knowing who I let into my space, learning to enjoy new and old friendships with all the numerous blessings they bring while also learning to connect more with myself, learn new things and trying not to overthink things (which is no joke).
I'll like to take this opportunity to appreciate a few of my friends. I'm so lucky to call you friend to celebrate this beautiful life with you, moments together, support each other and grow old and crazy together. I appreciate you and do not take you for granted and I'm so grateful to have you in my life. @Winnifred @Wuraola @Yomi @Ivie @Seun @Lola @Dolapo @Ibukun @Teju to mention just a few, thank you for being true to me and for all that you do. I love you to bits.💓



What do you think? Feel free to mention your awesome friends and don't forget to share your thoughts. let's connect!