The moment I laid my eyes on him, I couldn't get him out of my mind. I was working with my colleagues when he walked in. He was casually dressed, tall, with skin as dark as chocolate and handsome with eyes that lit up the room whenever he smiled.

I raised my head just in time to notice him as he walked into the room. He was engrossed in a conversation with my boss, you could tell that the nature of their discussions was light because they shared some laughs as they talked. He looked free like he was in his zone and was quite oblivious of his surroundings even as he looked around - I would like to think he noticed me while he glanced around. ( Don't be a hater, a girl can always dream)😜😝

As I worked with my colleagues, I silently stole glances at him as he walked his around the room handling his business like a boss with the guys he came with while he conversed further with my boos.

I would later have a session with him as I was notified by my boss that I & my teammates will be working with him. He spoke to the team about what would be expected of us and even as he spoke I could feel his eyes on me. His gaze burned directly at me making it feel as if we were the only two in the room, there and then I silently sent a quick prayer to God that we would see again.

I told God everything I could imagine about him, how I found him attractive and how I wanted him to be attractive to me and a few things that included what I couldn't wait to do to him... Okay, Okay you got me, I didn't tell God the last part. I mean, who tells God about wanting to kiss a guy you might never meet and then after talking with God, I went to stalk him on social media.

These days you need to backup your crush or feelings with a social media audit, you cannot afford to put it to waste and be crushing on someone who is already hooked especially if you're not planning to be the side chick.

The answer to my prayer came a few weeks later, my boss had informed my team that she would want us to have another session with him because she wanted us to put finishing touches on our previous work. I took my time dressing up that morning, I knew he was coming and I wanted him to notice me. I wore a black skirt that accentuated my curves and showed some skin and paired it up with a nice shirt, but I think I messed up everything somewhere around (I think that's what you get when you go out of your way to overly impress someone)😑

It was 12 noon, I remember because I had just recently raised my head from my system to take a quick break and was going back to my work wondering if this crush of mine will still show up when all of a sudden there was an uproar in the building. I lifted up my head from my system and there he was in all his glory, standing tall, looking ravishing more than ever like he had just stepped out from a chocolate dip and ready to be licked😋😋 and right before we got to the business of the day, I sent a quick mumbled prayer to God, please let this man talk to me personally🙏.

The work was fast and quick, and we did get to talk at some point but not personally. It was 3pm when his team went on break and said we should reconvene in 30 minutes time. I was working on my system on some other work-related assignments when I noticed that someone pulled up a chair beside me.

  Hi, your name is Lamide, right? he said stretching his hand out for a handshake, his hands were broad and strong with nicely manicured nails while his grip was firm like he was holding on and didn't want to let go

  I answered, Yes.

  He smiled, introduced himself as Damola and then we talked a bit about ''work" just the two of us. It's my best mini break conversation till date.

OMG! He had the perfect set of teeth I had ever seen, and the cutest set of kissable lips, his bodily scent, was a mixture of exotic and spicy mixed with a little bit of coffee and clean cotton. As we talked he gesticulated with his hands as our skin slightly graced each other

After the break, time went by so fast as we worked but I noticed he was stealing glances at me and of course I stole glances too, my second prayer about this crush of mine has been answered, call it coincidence or luck I didn't care I was basking in the euphoria of the moment.

At the close of business that day, I summoned up courage and we talked about some minor things that led us to follow each other on Instagram.

Anyway, it's been a week since I last saw him and I have no idea if I will see him again. The closest we ever got to know each other was the brief conversation we had and that was me shooting my shot in the best possible way I knew. Who knows maybe he will do the Banky W thing and slide into my DM (If that ever happens, I promise to keep you updated).

All in all, it was good to have a crush on someone new... This feeling would probably disappear in the next couple of days or probably linger till someone new comes along or better still he slides into my dm and we take it to the next level 😉.


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If there was one word to describe my birthday this year, that word would be "Boring". You see, my birthdays have not always been a big deal or fanfare where parties are thrown and so as much as possible, I try to make the best of the day by planning special things for myself. In time past, I would bake a cake for myself, buy myself a gift I can afford and enjoy the rest of the day.

Every year, I would always look forward with great expectations to my birthday, hoping to enjoy the day and also any surprises that might come up. I spent a major part of my birthday this year sleeping because the city of Lagos was put on hold because President Buhari was visiting and so a lot of offices didn't function on that day. I left the office later at noon and then slept for most of the evening when I got home. The only highlight of the day was getting to share beautiful pictures from the photo-shoot session I had weeks preceding my birthday and of course the tons of wishes and prayers I got from my family and friends.💓

This post is not in anyway to say that I'm discontent with my life or that I'm not grateful for the many blessings God has blessed me with but rather show how my heart is full with all the various experiences I have had. I understand that life will always be like a roller-coaster ride giving room for the highs and lows and that even as humans our needs will always be insatiable... so rather than focusing on the things that I have and do not have or how I would have loved my birthday to play out, I would like to share things that I have learned in 30 years even as the years gradually whines down.

30 Things I have Learnt in 30 Years.

1. Find your niche and grow there.
2. Take the first step. Do it afraid.
3. Read! Read!! Read!!!. Your conversations will significantly improve, your mind will thank you for it and books are also a way to explore new cities. 
4. Love will happen, don't know when it will but it will surely happen.
5. Walk away from toxic relationships/friendship without looking back.
6. Don't date because you're lonely or because all your friends are dating and getting married. Remember that time you did and it almost cost you.
7. Be flexible and accepting of others.
8. Save as much as you can. It will save you.
9. Splurge on yourself once in a while. You won't die.
10. Having a source of livelihood is key. It helps to provide a level of security.
11. Talk to people first particularly those you meeting for the first time. It won't kill you rather it will help you get whatever you need to get done quickly.
12. As often as possible, Be gentle and kind.
13. Learn to pick your battles.
14. Enjoy were you are, every tiny little bit of it, savour every moment because you don't know how long it will last. Therefore, enjoy the process while you wait for the new.
15. Not all friendship needs nurturing. Nurture the ones that bring you joy.
16. Network, make friends it will be scary at first but it will be worth it in the end.
17. Protect your dreams at all cost. No matter how terrified it makes you feel.
18. If his ways are unstable then he is a double-minded man, such men do not get anything from God. Stay clear from them.
19. Prayer is everything. Building a relationship with the Father cannot be overemphasized. Even if the problems are not immediately solved, you get instant peace from communing with Him.
20. Love is beautiful. Every aspect of it is blissful. Enjoy it when it happens.
21. Not everybody will agree with your belief, faith, and opinions. Learn to let things go.
22. Live life on your own terms, the world will make room for you even if they do not agree. Its okay to be different.
23. Speak your truth even if your voice shakes.
24. Money is very important don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
25. Family is everything and not necessarily defined by blood.
26. Show up for people as much as you can especially those rooting for you.
27. Its okay to cry.
28. Don't let the past hold you back. Live a life without regrets.
29. Grow up. Go on dates. Enjoy the music. Go sightseeing. Travel. Read. Don't forget to live.
30. You're strong. You're are beautiful. Your opinions matter. You're loved. You're important. Each of your worries would eventually become a thing of the past, so keep living and thriving the future is truly exciting because the world is waiting for your arrival.

In the past couple of weeks, I have thought about wanting and desiring to be in a loving relationship more than anything. I have imagined how it would happen when I meet him, how great it will be with him and my response when he proposes to me.

People say depending on what we think about, that's the kind of energy you will have and attract to yourself, so I have decided to think love, happy and successful relationship kind of thoughts because I want to attract only people who also desire to be in long-lasting successful relationships.

At this stage in my life, I'm ready to love somebody and receive love back in return. So this piece is hoping that all need to align, aligns quickly and brings this man to me with the speed of light.😆😘

What do you think? do you think the love energy is real?

'' What do you do when the very thing you love about life lets hell loose on you? How could you decide against it, knowing this would leave your world empty and deprive the world of the awesomeness it deserves. Knowing you only live once, how could you not live on the edge?''

I followed the life of Tise, a young and beautiful girl as she explored her relationship with her mum, her love for modelling and her near death experience. I found the story captivating even as I read, it took me on a journey and I couldn't wait to see how the story unfolded even as I flipped through the pages.

The book talks about the strained relationship between Tise and her mum and how no matter how much Tise strived to please her mum, she never seemed to do enough.

I particularly enjoyed  Chichi's character who happened to be Tise's best friend. I loved the relationship she had with Tise. I also liked how a couple of the Nigerian culture and language was infused in the book. Tise's mum would definitely pass for the statement - ''Not all heroes wear capes,'' but this wasn't revealed till the book's end.



I would recommend this book written by "Moyinoluwa Ezekiel" because apart from the fact that it explored the relationship between the Mother and the girl child. It also addressed other topics that are not freely discussed in the Nigerian society, topics like depression and suicide.

Do not hesitate to immerse yourself in a world of culture, language and human relationship. Get your book copy at https://www.kobo.com/ww/en/search?query=moyinoluwa%20a%20ezekiel&fcsearchfield=Author and https://beta.okadabooks.com/book/about/the_incident/20112

Navigating friendship as an adult can be difficult. Maintaining it can be a herculean task especially if you're someone who falls into the category of ''Out of sight, out of mind''. However, if you're like me who would usually make a mental note to check on friends, call or text and even go on a guilt trip when you haven't checked on special people in your life then communicating with your friends might not be so hard except you have friends who are not willing to be called friends.

I have come to the understanding that it takes genuine effort on both ends to make relationships work. I have also come to understand that for any kind of relationship to grow then both parties must learn to communicate as adequately as possible.

Make a reminder and set a timer if you have too on certain days of the month to remind you about the people in your life you need to check up on if you have to, I reminded my friend a few days back.

I have learnt to cope with friends who choose to go months without a word and even though I genuinely care about them, I'm also learning to be friends from a distance because of that's what they want. I have learnt to also understand friends who literally expect that we only talk like 3times in a year particularly during festive and celebratory periods all because they don't want to share details of their life with you and even if it feels odd and sometimes painful... I'm also learning to respect boundaries because whats friendship without boundaries.
And this is not to shame anyone in how they choose to be friends with anyone but I have come to understand that Life as an adult can be difficult but the journey gets easier with friends. I believe in quality friendships especially since I'm a very mushy person. The friendship that comes with openness, where support is key and paramount, friendships were we can laugh, cry, argue and talk about anything from the most mundane things to the most important of them all.
I like to think that even though friendship as an adult can be difficult, I'm learning to be in control of my emotions by knowing who I let into my space, learning to enjoy new and old friendships with all the numerous blessings they bring while also learning to connect more with myself, learn new things and trying not to overthink things (which is no joke).
I'll like to take this opportunity to appreciate a few of my friends. I'm so lucky to call you friend to celebrate this beautiful life with you, moments together, support each other and grow old and crazy together. I appreciate you and do not take you for granted and I'm so grateful to have you in my life. @Winnifred @Wuraola @Yomi @Ivie @Seun @Lola @Dolapo @Ibukun @Teju to mention just a few, thank you for being true to me and for all that you do. I love you to bits.💓



What do you think? Feel free to mention your awesome friends and don't forget to share your thoughts. let's connect!