He wrapped his arms around me as if he was holding on to me for dear life, I didn’t care much about the spooning only that I wanted to get up from the bed and leave before he wakes up. The sex was great, there was no denying the fact but that was one of the thrills that came with a one-night stand, have great sex and move on, no time for spooning. I decided to wait a while so that he could sleep more deeply before I would get up, perhaps a little cuddling wouldn’t hurt anyone.

I got up from the bed at exactly 4:30 am, this dude was probably going to sleep till 10:00 am since it was the weekend and there was no need to rush anywhere, I hurriedly wore my pants as I watched the guy sleeping peacefully on the bed through the mirror, he laid with his face down revealing his perfectly shaped butt, these days I only go to the club or lounge when I have an itch that needs to be itched, a girl gat to do what she has to and thankfully there are always guys who are ready to help with my sexual fix.

I brushed my hair still watching him, I can't even explain what came over me, I never follow one-night stand to their homes, I usually insist on hotels, hotels that were most time picked by me but somehow I have followed this guy, omo! You get mind o I said to myself, what if the guy has turned out to be a serial killer or kidnapper, Lagos was too volatile not to be careful, it came with the territory. I made a solemn promise under my breath not to be carried away by the itch to follow a stranger home next time but the question going through my mind was this guy sleeping peacefully on his bed, how can you bring a complete stranger home and after filling each other up, go to bed naked as if you’re the only one at home.

This guy was definitely not as paranoid as I was, I finished brushing my hair, grabbed the rest of my things, took one look at his room, climbed the flight of stairs down to his living room and stepped out into the cold, my uber was waiting.

The weeks following were hectic and crazy at work, my schedule didn’t give me time to mingle with guys to get to the relationship stage except for one-night pick-ups, call it what you like, this love thing wasn’t for everybody and I had quickly resigned my fate especially since I had tried my hands in the relationship department a couple of times, so instead of banging my head at a door that will not open, I chose the other route.

The summer period was fast approaching, this was one of my happiest moments in the year apart from Christmas, I and my friends would pick any of our favorite places or places we have been longing to explore and visit there during the summer. Last year we visited Medina of Marrakesh in Morocco, this year the goal was to visit Bali, we had seen a lot of pepper dem and breathtaking pictures on Instagram and we couldn’t wait to explore the city and also take pictures that will last a lifetime. Our calendars were marked and our flight was booked ahead, we had started counting down already, this break was needed and well deserved seeing how hard we worked our asses in our various professional fields.

I, Tope, Remy, and Maves chatted loudly as we chilled at the airport waiting for our flight. We had arrived early to beat the Lagos traffic so as to avoid stories that touch the heart. We sat at the lounge with our drinks and caught up on what's been going on in our lives because our busy schedules didn’t permit us to see and hang out as often as we would have loved besides money must be made at all cost.

Tope talked about work and how her parents won’t stop badgering her about getting married, there was actually a guy in the picture but Tope wasn’t too sure about his intentions and if they will even make it to the altar, so she still considered herself single when out with the girls, we had advised her to call it quit with the guy, I mean there’s no point in being with someone when you don’t know where it will lead too but her reply was always at least I get a steady carrot stick whenever the itch comes.

Remy, on the other hand, was bisexual, of course, we were the only ones that knew about it. Nigeria was not ready for sexual fluidity yet which was Remy’s thing but she was lucky on the other hand, she had the blue passport so she could always port if perhaps she found love in the hands of a woman but gosh, I will miss her if that happens, Remy knew how to light up a room and was the life of a party. While Maves & I talked about work, there was actually nothing going on in our love department except for the fact that unlike Remy, our love for the carrot was profound.

We arrived in Bali and just looking at the scenery alone swept me off my feet, this was the kind of place you come with a lover and even though the country of Indonesia might be conservative in a way, the exotic places in the city of Bali was created in a way to make the explorer enjoy their stay, every niche  of this city was done to suit the needs of the different explorers visiting, whether you were an adventurer who wanted to swing between two tall trees in the desert, go bungee jumping or just lie in the sun enjoying the beautiful sceneries. 

The architectural designs were also top-notch, it makes you wonder if Nigeria will ever take advantages of its beach environs thereby making it into a tourist attraction.

I’m sure the business idea of this place was made with lovers and adventurers alike in mind, I allowed my eyes to scout the area and I could see many places to have quickies and climax in the corner of my mind, I secretly grew envious of the lovers we saw around, having someone special to explore this beautiful city with is not a bad idea but at least I had my girls with me.

After the usual lounging in the sun and living for the gram, Remy had heard about a club were tourist lovers usually visit and we all knew it was time to get our freak on.

I wore a yellow dress with a low-neckline, brought out my FRO to play and paired it up with a gold sandal and dropping earrings, my girls were of course melanin dripping as we headed for the club, Remy would always say what’s the point of a vacation trip without some foreign sex.

I twirled, danced, twerked and shaked my butt till my waist and feet hurts, my girls had already found partners to mingle with for the night or perhaps for the rest of our vacation, I walked to the bar to  order a drink when I felt a gentle tap on my shoulders, I turned and it was the guy I had a one-night stand with at his house, looking down at me and smiling.

I would have whatever the young lady is having he spoke to the barman.

I mean what are the odds, I returned the smile as he stretched out his hand, taking a seat for himself beside me, he said again, I didn’t catch the name the last time with a smug on his face.

***

I never gave out my real names whenever I went to the club with the intent of going to get the cure to the itch, I’m sure I must have given him a name that night we met but I couldn’t even remember, maybe I should give him another fake name I thought to myself but the way he was smiling expecting an answer from me I was so sure he remembered the name I mentioned the last time.

So, I blurted out I think it’s best we don’t start with names here, the last time I told you my name, I ended up in your bed, which was exciting and exhilarating he quickly added, I was thinking I would make you breakfast in the morning but you were already gone when I woke up.

As he rambled on, all I could think of what were the odds of us meeting again. He clearly wanted to know all about me because he kept asking questions that I was not giving any answers too. So, I switched the topic and asked for his name which he clearly didn’t tell me, he used the excuse I gave him but then he added a clause, you can ask me any other thing though, new city, new rules.

We left the bar and walked towards the beach not far from us was a fireside that served to keep us warm and I allowed the questions to start reeling out and he answered everything not directing anything back to me. He told me he travelled to Indonesia for business and some of his business partners had mentioned this cool place and he decided to visit, he also mentioned that he wasn’t going to be in town for a long while as he had to travel to another country on business but would check back on me in Bali if I was still around.

I can’t remember falling asleep on his legs, all I know is that he woke me up that the day was beginning to break, I must have fallen asleep as he spoke with me. My hotel wasn’t too far from the club, so he drove me there and walked me to my room with a promise to check back on me but not before exchanging numbers.

Immediately, my head hit the bed I fell asleep all those talks with the drinks we had just made me want to sleep.

Around noon, I woke up to the ramblings of my friends as they shared their various escapades and adventures, 

I laughed as they shared and thought to myself that it wasn’t a bad idea living vicariously through the experiences of my friends but I knew it was about to short-lived as they turned to me and asked how my night went and who I spent it with, my night wasn’t as adventurous as theirs but they listened with rapt attention, by the time I was done they all kept silent for a while and then the questions started flowing in a rush.

Are you sure is not a stalker?

What does he do?

Is he into you?

Sounds like he is into you?

Do you like him?

Are you sure it’s not the sex, that’s confusing him?

As the questions poured out, more of which I didn’t have answers to all I could hear was concern laid in their voice, these girls loved me, no doubt but for now, there was nothing to be concerned about.

 ***

I know its that time of the month where lovers won’t let you hear a word. It’s that time where everywhere you turn too something lovey-dovey is been advertised and talked about and it practically feels as if there’s no way of escape.

Chances are if you’re a commuter, the songs that will be jamming on your favourite radio channels are love songs, your favorite series too wont spare you neither will movies been released into the cinemas spare us, these people are set to put us in our feelings whether we like it or not, their major aim is to make our heart go turnioniown 😅😅😆.

Your friends too won’t make it easy either…Tobi and Folake who you think is still single and will probably be people to hang around with during this period are already making plans to go on getaway trips with boos you’re not aware off, even Deji and Biola that you think don’t have girlfriends have also chosen to do right by the girls in their lives and so are already making plans.

Well, I have come to let you know that this too shall pass 😂😀, and even though love is a beautiful thing refuse to be intimidated by all the lovey-dovey going on around.

Stay true to yourself, don’t give in to that boy advances all in the name of Valentine and Mr. man don’t let that girl sway you either, you both know you don’t like yourself that much, so please spare us the drama of listening to your sobby stories after valentine.

Remember, it is okay to take your time till it happens instead of catching feelings up and down.

And, it’s not a bad idea to splurge on yourself by taking yourself out, join a group of strangers to travel and explore a city, wining and dining in the restaurant of your choice or even buying that gift you have been eyeing for a while, you can even top it up by writing a love note to yourself, reminding yourself how awesome you are, declaring to whoever needs to know that you’re worthy of love and affection.

However, if you’re not still sold out to the idea of doing all of the above, you can as well cook jollof rice, drink coke or baileys, binge on your favourite series and sleep. 

Na single you single, you no kill anybody. 😂😂😂


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The moment I laid my eyes on him, I couldn't get him out of my mind. I was working with my colleagues when he walked in. He was casually dressed, tall, with skin as dark as chocolate and handsome with eyes that lit up the room whenever he smiled.

I raised my head just in time to notice him as he walked into the room. He was engrossed in a conversation with my boss, you could tell that the nature of their discussions was light because they shared some laughs as they talked. He looked free like he was in his zone and was quite oblivious of his surroundings even as he looked around - I would like to think he noticed me while he glanced around. ( Don't be a hater, a girl can always dream)😜😝

As I worked with my colleagues, I silently stole glances at him as he walked his around the room handling his business like a boss with the guys he came with while he conversed further with my boos.

I would later have a session with him as I was notified by my boss that I & my teammates will be working with him. He spoke to the team about what would be expected of us and even as he spoke I could feel his eyes on me. His gaze burned directly at me making it feel as if we were the only two in the room, there and then I silently sent a quick prayer to God that we would see again.

I told God everything I could imagine about him, how I found him attractive and how I wanted him to be attractive to me and a few things that included what I couldn't wait to do to him... Okay, Okay you got me, I didn't tell God the last part. I mean, who tells God about wanting to kiss a guy you might never meet and then after talking with God, I went to stalk him on social media.

These days you need to backup your crush or feelings with a social media audit, you cannot afford to put it to waste and be crushing on someone who is already hooked especially if you're not planning to be the side chick.

The answer to my prayer came a few weeks later, my boss had informed my team that she would want us to have another session with him because she wanted us to put finishing touches on our previous work. I took my time dressing up that morning, I knew he was coming and I wanted him to notice me. I wore a black skirt that accentuated my curves and showed some skin and paired it up with a nice shirt, but I think I messed up everything somewhere around (I think that's what you get when you go out of your way to overly impress someone)😑

It was 12 noon, I remember because I had just recently raised my head from my system to take a quick break and was going back to my work wondering if this crush of mine will still show up when all of a sudden there was an uproar in the building. I lifted up my head from my system and there he was in all his glory, standing tall, looking ravishing more than ever like he had just stepped out from a chocolate dip and ready to be licked😋😋 and right before we got to the business of the day, I sent a quick mumbled prayer to God, please let this man talk to me personally🙏.

The work was fast and quick, and we did get to talk at some point but not personally. It was 3pm when his team went on break and said we should reconvene in 30 minutes time. I was working on my system on some other work-related assignments when I noticed that someone pulled up a chair beside me.

  Hi, your name is Lamide, right? he said stretching his hand out for a handshake, his hands were broad and strong with nicely manicured nails while his grip was firm like he was holding on and didn't want to let go

  I answered, Yes.

  He smiled, introduced himself as Damola and then we talked a bit about ''work" just the two of us. It's my best mini break conversation till date.

OMG! He had the perfect set of teeth I had ever seen, and the cutest set of kissable lips, his bodily scent, was a mixture of exotic and spicy mixed with a little bit of coffee and clean cotton. As we talked he gesticulated with his hands as our skin slightly graced each other

After the break, time went by so fast as we worked but I noticed he was stealing glances at me and of course I stole glances too, my second prayer about this crush of mine has been answered, call it coincidence or luck I didn't care I was basking in the euphoria of the moment.

At the close of business that day, I summoned up courage and we talked about some minor things that led us to follow each other on Instagram.

Anyway, it's been a week since I last saw him and I have no idea if I will see him again. The closest we ever got to know each other was the brief conversation we had and that was me shooting my shot in the best possible way I knew. Who knows maybe he will do the Banky W thing and slide into my DM (If that ever happens, I promise to keep you updated).

All in all, it was good to have a crush on someone new... This feeling would probably disappear in the next couple of days or probably linger till someone new comes along or better still he slides into my dm and we take it to the next level 😉.


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If there was one word to describe my birthday this year, that word would be "Boring". You see, my birthdays have not always been a big deal or fanfare where parties are thrown and so as much as possible, I try to make the best of the day by planning special things for myself. In time past, I would bake a cake for myself, buy myself a gift I can afford and enjoy the rest of the day.

Every year, I would always look forward with great expectations to my birthday, hoping to enjoy the day and also any surprises that might come up. I spent a major part of my birthday this year sleeping because the city of Lagos was put on hold because President Buhari was visiting and so a lot of offices didn't function on that day. I left the office later at noon and then slept for most of the evening when I got home. The only highlight of the day was getting to share beautiful pictures from the photo-shoot session I had weeks preceding my birthday and of course the tons of wishes and prayers I got from my family and friends.💓

This post is not in anyway to say that I'm discontent with my life or that I'm not grateful for the many blessings God has blessed me with but rather show how my heart is full with all the various experiences I have had. I understand that life will always be like a roller-coaster ride giving room for the highs and lows and that even as humans our needs will always be insatiable... so rather than focusing on the things that I have and do not have or how I would have loved my birthday to play out, I would like to share things that I have learned in 30 years even as the years gradually whines down.

30 Things I have Learnt in 30 Years.

1. Find your niche and grow there.
2. Take the first step. Do it afraid.
3. Read! Read!! Read!!!. Your conversations will significantly improve, your mind will thank you for it and books are also a way to explore new cities. 
4. Love will happen, don't know when it will but it will surely happen.
5. Walk away from toxic relationships/friendship without looking back.
6. Don't date because you're lonely or because all your friends are dating and getting married. Remember that time you did and it almost cost you.
7. Be flexible and accepting of others.
8. Save as much as you can. It will save you.
9. Splurge on yourself once in a while. You won't die.
10. Having a source of livelihood is key. It helps to provide a level of security.
11. Talk to people first particularly those you meeting for the first time. It won't kill you rather it will help you get whatever you need to get done quickly.
12. As often as possible, Be gentle and kind.
13. Learn to pick your battles.
14. Enjoy were you are, every tiny little bit of it, savour every moment because you don't know how long it will last. Therefore, enjoy the process while you wait for the new.
15. Not all friendship needs nurturing. Nurture the ones that bring you joy.
16. Network, make friends it will be scary at first but it will be worth it in the end.
17. Protect your dreams at all cost. No matter how terrified it makes you feel.
18. If his ways are unstable then he is a double-minded man, such men do not get anything from God. Stay clear from them.
19. Prayer is everything. Building a relationship with the Father cannot be overemphasized. Even if the problems are not immediately solved, you get instant peace from communing with Him.
20. Love is beautiful. Every aspect of it is blissful. Enjoy it when it happens.
21. Not everybody will agree with your belief, faith, and opinions. Learn to let things go.
22. Live life on your own terms, the world will make room for you even if they do not agree. Its okay to be different.
23. Speak your truth even if your voice shakes.
24. Money is very important don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
25. Family is everything and not necessarily defined by blood.
26. Show up for people as much as you can especially those rooting for you.
27. Its okay to cry.
28. Don't let the past hold you back. Live a life without regrets.
29. Grow up. Go on dates. Enjoy the music. Go sightseeing. Travel. Read. Don't forget to live.
30. You're strong. You're are beautiful. Your opinions matter. You're loved. You're important. Each of your worries would eventually become a thing of the past, so keep living and thriving the future is truly exciting because the world is waiting for your arrival.

In the past couple of weeks, I have thought about wanting and desiring to be in a loving relationship more than anything. I have imagined how it would happen when I meet him, how great it will be with him and my response when he proposes to me.

People say depending on what we think about, that's the kind of energy you will have and attract to yourself, so I have decided to think love, happy and successful relationship kind of thoughts because I want to attract only people who also desire to be in long-lasting successful relationships.

At this stage in my life, I'm ready to love somebody and receive love back in return. So this piece is hoping that all need to align, aligns quickly and brings this man to me with the speed of light.😆😘

What do you think? do you think the love energy is real?

'' What do you do when the very thing you love about life lets hell loose on you? How could you decide against it, knowing this would leave your world empty and deprive the world of the awesomeness it deserves. Knowing you only live once, how could you not live on the edge?''

I followed the life of Tise, a young and beautiful girl as she explored her relationship with her mum, her love for modelling and her near death experience. I found the story captivating even as I read, it took me on a journey and I couldn't wait to see how the story unfolded even as I flipped through the pages.

The book talks about the strained relationship between Tise and her mum and how no matter how much Tise strived to please her mum, she never seemed to do enough.

I particularly enjoyed  Chichi's character who happened to be Tise's best friend. I loved the relationship she had with Tise. I also liked how a couple of the Nigerian culture and language was infused in the book. Tise's mum would definitely pass for the statement - ''Not all heroes wear capes,'' but this wasn't revealed till the book's end.



I would recommend this book written by "Moyinoluwa Ezekiel" because apart from the fact that it explored the relationship between the Mother and the girl child. It also addressed other topics that are not freely discussed in the Nigerian society, topics like depression and suicide.

Do not hesitate to immerse yourself in a world of culture, language and human relationship. Get your book copy at https://www.kobo.com/ww/en/search?query=moyinoluwa%20a%20ezekiel&fcsearchfield=Author and https://beta.okadabooks.com/book/about/the_incident/20112